TO: COUSINS & NEPHEWS & NEICES FR: VASOS PANAGIOTOPOULOS RE: GENERAL ADVICE DT: JAN02 (ORIG:AUG88) ------------------------------------------------------------------------------ LESSONS FROM LIFE OF VASOS FOR FARAWAY COUSINS AND OTHER SILLY PROVERBS Appearance opens doors, but only value enters. They buy what they,not you,want. We become what we believe we are. When the mind is ready, a teacher appears. Who asks is fool for now, but who does not ask remains fool forever. Don't celebrate closing a sale, celebrate opening a relationship. You have to earn the right to do business with people. Marketing must be ongoing, consistent, relentless, shameless. It is not who you know, but wants know you & never has chance forget you. To question you don't want to answer, smile, ask, "Why you want to know?" Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer. To get the right answer you have to ask the right question. Knowledge and secrecy are temporary - use them quickly. Our deeds are never forgotten nor long secret. "No man has a good enough memory to make a successful liar" (Abr. Lincoln) Excusing lies to yourself makes you believe lies of others. Reddened face shows emotion but pale shows fear. Those who feel they might give in seek pain to absolve them. Large groups have less than one brain. A team is not equal in experience, talent, or education but in commitment. Mathematics is lazy oversimplification, thus useful. Info is dear, data cheap Experience is from arrogant lack of knowledge. Every day learns from the one before, but none teaches tomorrow. Fate isn't what happens whatever you do, it is if you don't do. Be Optimistic, Objective, Deliberate, Determined Give people more than they expect, and do it cheerfully. First honesty, then industry, then concentration (Andrew Carnegie) When you focus on what might have been, it gets in the way of what can be. Ignorance and poverty are from arrogance. Prepare for good,not just bad,days. Unlucky wouldn't know luck if fell from sky, quarrel with their tools. Afraid of bad luck will never know good. Asking faintly begs denial. He that cannot abide a bad market deserves not a good one. If fate sends you a lemon, make lemonade. Single hand cannot wash itself even in river. Work Ethic: calling, use of gifts, idleness is evil We have to do the best we can.. sacred human responsibility. - Alb Einstein As horse must eat at rest so wealth comes not from regular income. Learning to learn and yet admit total ignorance is ultimate knowledge. Listen to taped notes seven times before exam. NEVER sleep less than six or more than seven continuous hours a day; Too much makes you greedy, too little and you forget what you're doing. Forgeting is psychological hidding, not physical - doesn't exist. Our short term memory only holds about five items. Reading makes a full man,meditation a profound, discourse a clear man. Taking lecture notes is more useful than rereading them. Tension accumulates in neck, so trace it from root, will it free along path. Best ideas come randomly so have paper always ready. Eraser is most important writing utensil. Most of book is ignorable egoboosting jargon - focus past it in 2hrs. You can do and learn much more when you are young. Independently reproduce results to check them. Higher intelligence accompanies higher sensitivity to everything. Variety is the true test and teacher of intelligence. Subconsciously cultivate thoughts - sleep on it. Exploit your moods - don't fight them. Schedule thought time. Learning involves:overview,plan,read,organise,extract,practice,review. So as to not interrupt a meeting - write it down. Discipline your life but never your thoughts. Wait, stall, think - everything becomes an opportunity. Act quick,think slow. Procrastination is but neurotic perfectionism. Speed&accuracy are tradeoffs. Sanity and progress are mutually exclusive. Improve everything. Make original mistakes by learning from others. Learn to say "I don't know" Most use their minds a few minutes a week, genius a few hours. Doing, not trying to be, achieves. TV tells peasants not ashamed be lazy. Riskaverseness, poverty and slavery are synonymous. Sitting is being crippled. Quantifying helps put theories in perspective. Explore, confirm reality, develop conflicting sources, test-market ideas. Personal contacts & experiences shape thinking. Be prepared for all contingencies - no second chances. You can't plan - but you can be strategically opportunistic. Those who do not care what others think are followed as leaders. Singlemindedness is key to material pursuits but enemy of intellect. Will - tempered by realism and judgement - shapes history. Think you can. Every mistake is a lesson. Admit mistakes, rectify quickly. Secret of being is not only to live but something to live for. - Dostoyevsky The biggest human temptation is to settle for too little. - Thos Merton The meek lamb suckles from two mothers. We can have it all, but not at the same time. What you leave behind is not what is engraved in stone monuments, but what is woven into the lives of others. - Pericles Writing it down or putting in in its place keeps you from worrying. Preserve options. Deliver bad news because others won't. Learn to tolerate flak and persevere. Uncriticised=Inactive. Detecting what's missing is harder than seeing what's there. Everyone is expendible, esp you. Be able to resign - improves your perfrmnce. Today's enemy may be tomorrow's ally - don't build resentments. Don't say things you would not want repeated. If you get the objectives right, lieutenant can write strategy (Gen Marshall) Planning is everything, the plan is nothing (Ike) Persuasion is a two-edged sword,pathos&logos, to be plunged deeply In unanimity there may well be either cowardice or uncritical thinking. Don't let "urgent" overpower "important". If coasting, going downhill. Intellectual Capital is the least fungible kind. All fall but are distinguished by energy and dignity with which continue. Let God avenge you - He's better at it. Empathy builds self-awareness. That cheater might be Christ testing your charity. Avoid arrogant twisted notions of worldly ways that force us to do unnecessarily sneaky and therefore stupid things in name of good. All grandiose ideas generalised from personal grudges; Relocalising defuses. Arguments of convenience lack integrity and inevitably trip you up. Exploit that you'll unavoidably totally resemble your parents. Marriage judged by its children. Every child born with breadloaf in mouth. Exploit, don't fight, preconceptions. Real friendship is unhesitatingly tolerated mutual exploitation. Friendship won simultaneously by flower & sword - neither respected alone. Defend your supporters to prove you deserve them. Coldly punishing an enemy can keep friends from straying. Admonish friends in private, praise in public. Angry man not fit to pray. Virtue never dwells alone, always has neighbours. Benevolents allow faults in themselves so as to countenance friends. Character&Friendship are much easier kept than recovered. Too much discussion means a quarrel. Too much laughter discovers folly. The most dangerous enemy is one with nothing to lose. Replace a distraction by a more complicated distraction. To control anger:laugh at self, learn to delegate, work out, ID true source. Anger is frustration at inability to control and of unrealistic expectations Label feelings not people;Distngsh from thoughts & take respnsblty for them Show respect for other people's feelings and your own potentl rxns. Channel/reframe anger, fear, oth neg feelings into productive action. Turn your anger against itself - be angry at anger. Moods transfer: Avoid people who invalidate, disrespect, invade or negative Know when to back off, else flooded emotions revert to primitive. Inability to express or understand feelings causes disruptive conflicts. Cross hands over breastbone to suppress passions in breathing. If someone screams, it's because you made him think. People stop yelling if you CALMLY but firmly whisper. Tempers are cured by harsh realism. If you smile on the phone, it will be noticed. Isolation and illogical, unpredictable events bring introversion. Put words in their mouths with questions. Silence makes other guy talk. If they are first asked questions to which they know not the answers, they really open up to the ones they know. When interrogating, be sure there is consistency in attitude in order to detect deception, also check whatever possible; Pressure should be slackened as rapport is granted. Complaining steals problemsolving time. Principles hide egos. Condemning people keeps you from learning from them. Morons "express feelings", "need space" and "can't concentrate" while leaders "stay cool under pressure" Acknwledging existence of negative behavior may encourage to expand. Ideology/fanaticism/perfectionism/principles cause most heinous of crimes. Adherence to simple ideas is the source of all bitterness. Simplicity is laziness. Silent fools look wise. Hear much, speak little. "They say so" is half a lie. Courage, like muscle, strengthened by use. Cross the river in a crowd and the crocodile won't eat you. Most megaconspiracies exist only by the hypocritical consent of victims. A long speech takes no preparation, but a short one needs much. Never attribute to malice that explainable by stupidity. Wealthy mouth leftist platitudes to appease servants they depend on, unlike middle class who encounter neither extreme. Observe your enemies, for they first find your faults. Of all the strategems, to know when to quit is the best. He that commits a fault thinks everyone speaks of it. He who excuses himself, accuses himself. If you wish to be good, first believe that you are bad. Envy shoots at others, and wounds herself. Fool's tongue is long enough to cut his own throat. GOD gives the milk, but not the pail. Genius has limits but stupidity doesn't. Maintaining a complicated life is a great way to avoid changing it. Once a year, go someplace you've never been before. Open your arms to change, but don't let go of your values. People avoid fighting you if they think you're insane. Unwritten promises are worthless. Shared ownership is destructive,neglected. Partner in the business will not put an obstacle to it. Tell only as need but ask everything. Find better-than-you as examples. Fearful respect is greatest obstacle to communicating with superiors. Those who knew you best yesterday know you least today. He who lives with an ass, makes noises like an ass. Hour in the morning is worth two in the evening. Learn by repeating - never originating or changing - gossip. There's no fun in physics, but a good deal of physics in fun. Those in machinery of power take no joy except in whirring of machine. Compliments come from people too lazy to be like you, to make you lazy too. Motivation is the art of getting people to do what you want them to do because they want to do it. Ike Choose best peple (brains, character) & leave them alone. Forced obedience causes hidden inobedience. Give - don't get - ulcers. Lovingly familial disapproval is more dangerous than anger. In disagreements with loved ones, deal with the current situation. Most people need to follow someone - let it be you. Don't be penny wise, pound foolish - many costs hidden. You get what pay for. To make more money, you have to spend more first. Only the rich can afford to keep replacing cheap things. If it costs more to store and find than buy, thow it away. Industry is fortune's right hand, and frugality her left. One cannot both feast and become rich. Cheap/sloppy briefcase noticed, but good one gets you noticed instead. You can accomplish much if you don't care who gets the credit. Machines can do work of many ordinary men but of no extraordinary man. Science is seeing as others but thinking as none before. Every great advance in science has issued from a new audacity of imagination. - John Dewey Seeking security brings failure but seeking opportunity brings security. Progress' risks are like running on a razor's edge: If you stop to look, think, or panic - you fall! TO: COUSINS FR: VASOS PANAGIOTOPOULOS RE: CAREERS AND EDUCATION DT: 23DEC88 (ORIG: MAY88) ----------------------------------------------------------------------------- In May, 1988, I called some old classmates and noticed some trends: Economic need chooses our specialisation more than any inspiration on our part. All my engineer friends worked in computer programming regardless of education area or level. Most my business school friends likewise worked in investment banking and make ten times what the engineers do. The worst students are now the richest. Most went into the same kind of business as some close family member. There now exist computer programs that replace me in doing most of what I learned in engineering school. Technical knowledge depreciates by half every five to seven years, while human knowledge appreciates in value. It is also worth noting that the greatest technological achievements came not from doing and extending one specialised area, but from combining several, otherwise-unrelated areas. The point on being replaced by a computer indicates that if you do not study Ariopaytis (we know from what we don't know), Aristotle (socialism didn't work two millenia ago, nobody washes a rented car), Bach, Bastiat (socialism didn't work two centuries ago), Beethoven, Burke (traditions are society's memory), Confucius, Descartes, Dostoevsky (evil is arrogance), Homer, Jefferson, Machiavelli (half actions don't work, maintain virtue so that occasional unvirtuous but needed brutality may be excused), Michelangelo, Rembrandt, Solomon, Theotokopulos, and de Tocqueville (slavery and artificial respect breed laziness) - you will not learn to understand the human spirit - ANTHROPOGHNOSIA! The traditional philosophies, literature and religions of both the West and the East emphasise the theme that much of the world's misery is the product of lives dominated too much by the passions of greed, selfcenteredness, childish resentment, hypocrisy or dependency. My professors said we had to learn about great art was so that we may be motivated to earn high enough salaries to own it! Similarly, my engineering professors would talk about a subject and then say "You just have to know this exists, because you are all going to be managers and have other people do it for you!" Indeed, we were told that our Columbia education was intended to make us leaders, generalists, never specialists. Technical knowledge is just something insecure petty peasants masturbate with - educated people are meant to kick, not lick, other peoples' behinds! But also, acquiring historical and philosophical perspective allows us to see old evils that reappear with new pseudo-modern faces. Moreover, in career and marriage - you must chose the one you cannot live without, not just any one you can live with: this is because the energy you put into your job, and the success you receive, is proportional to how much you like what you are doing. One good way to measure this is to see what courses you have done best in, and what different combinations of these courses you would be comfortable with. If you draw well, and you live in a country where textiles is one of the three largest industries, then maybe clothing design is your field; Yet, if your sister is studying public relations and your cousin marketing, you might consider advertising (creative, not strategic) or political cartoons. But you should never choose a career just to make your family happy - else you will also hate your family if you hate your job! I was also surprised when Columbia's (job) placement director, Mrs. Athena Constantine, told me most jobs are obtained not via degree or specialisation but via acquaintances of family, faculty, or associations; Such acquantances are better work quality indicators than grades or degrees! Some might say this maintains existing class divisions - but only in the sence that some people are unwilling to abandon their pennywise poundfoolish peasant psychological baggage and reform to a higher class work environment. Huh? I have met super-wealthy computer programmers weighing two hundred kilograms who spend their money collecting and displaying five hundred different kinds of fried potato chips - excluding those affixed to their periphery of course. I have met people who obtained several advanced degrees and then opened grocery stores. I once helped fire a sweet little character (a very religious Orthodox Jew) who could never do anything without detailed directions and whose purpose at work was how he could describe his achievements to his Babylonian Jewish peasant maternal grandmother - never mind that his Austrian father was a university professor; the poor guy more resembled a frightened rabbit that an educated human being. DEGREES ARE MEANINGLESS COMPARED TO HUMAN INTERACTIONS, and these are LEARNED IN THE FAMILY, not the university! This is also why classical American universities require a broad general education - to educate the spirit - prior to mind-educating specialisation. High quality workers must be able to think beyond rhetorical claptrap, and must be able to create and adapt values, not just parrot them. TO: COLUMBIA ENGINEERING STUDENTS FR: VASOS PANAGIOTOPOULOS RE: CAREER ADVICE DT: JAN89 (ORIG: FEB86) - What to major in Would be surprised how little this matters Some of my acquaintances PhD Aeroelasticity makes IBM PC clones MS/BS Indust Engr imports oriental rugs MS Mech Engr became Admiral and imports factory machinery MS OR became VP MIS The two most important career determinants are What your family does and has connections in some things you just learn by osmosis, you can't avoid it eg, if father is waiter - work for a food processor What the current technological wave is ie, today everything involves (most my classmates) o computers o investment banking (really only NYC industry) - How prepare for real world Learn to compete with your classmates and ignore faculty theories Learn teamwork on class group projects Make networks, meet people, go to high-class NYC parties Ivy League ideal for meeting future leaders But probably enjoying humanities not slaving over tech People move - even get their grandma's summer address! Professors too busy with tenure and grants to be of any real use DO NOT work for a university unless want spend rest of life there The side (not main) line of your college job will have more to do with your first job than your major ie, if automate bookstore or lab - job in computers As soon as something becomes general knowledge,loses commercial advantage People skills survive when tech obsolete Market oriented; study motivations People know you listen/care/followthru Need driven, not technology driven Most people undirected, naturally follow you I'm-an-expert ego-trap don't show off by adding unnecessary complexities Fearful respect = greatest obstacle to communicating with superiors Techies spend 70% of their time communicating Learn how learn: Books/Colleagues/Experts ( F O C U S !! ) Pick unwilling expert's brain by rephrase question Force to tell bottom line - focus meetings Read advanced book in unknown topic in two hours! Focus - ignore meaningless egoboosting jargon Find all implications - simple more robust Read backwards, contents table, speed read Honest prosper - somebody always remembers Politics players untrusted/ignored in crisis Best ideas always come randomly - have paper with you Sanity and progress mutually exclusive - PLAY !!! - Graduate school If likely forget too much, do it now If really that interested, you already did 50% MS courses before BS If you have ANY uncertainties, get a job first Especially if family has no corporate experience to model decisions on - Small vs. large vs. own firm Most big firms are dead meat - takeover/LBO/breakup targets There are almost no openings in big firms today Small firms are wave of the future but less job security Computer technology eliminates economy of scale (ie big firms) But means have to send out a lot more resumes, also networking people who graduate before you that you met in advanced courses I always ended up working (4x/5yrs) for CU alum, even unknowingly! The future job will really be a telecommuting subcontractor (self!) Use, don't buy - to stay flexible - strategic opportunism World changing: Third Industrial Revolution ! Information Age ! - Becoming a superstar Do something you really enjoy, not because of money If enjoy job, you naturally give your best If don't know what want ("Just make lotsa money, I guess") You'll always be a step behind in a rat race TO: COUSINS FR: VASOS PANAGIOTOPOULOS DT: 10MAR89 RE: HOW TO STUDY ---------------------------------------------------------------------------- SPEEDREADING: Just underlining what your read with your finger doubles your reading speed - you were right and your first grade teacher was wrong. After a while, force yourself to read faster by increasing the speed of your finger, so your eye muscles will gradually develop. Most people read two hundred words per minute, a good speed reading course should bring you up by five times, and a superexpert can come up to fifteen times. It also helps if you scan what you are about to read to get an idea how it is structured so your mind knows where it is going - rather than wander endlessly. MEMORY: Actually, we never forget anything. We psychologically hide things that bring us painful or otherwise unpleasant memories. Start to understand this by looking at pictures of your past and trying to remember more - first last year, then grammar school. Your memory has improved well if you can remember from age three, but some people can remember things their mothers said when they were in her belly. TIME: You have to learn to discipline your time. Start by planning each three hour study period at its start. Break your time down to fifteen minute intervals and plan a simplified ask for each, but leave the last fifteen minutes in each hour for catching up on what you didn't finish. Eventually, you will learn how you work and be better able to schedule entire days and later weeks. Remember to be realistic and to break your task down to doable portions. As your courses become more complicated, you will schedule hours instead of quarters. Learn to pace yourself so you can endure long tasks. NOTES: Taking notes forces you to structure what you hear or read. It forces you to use your motor skills and thusly involve more parts of your brain. But take down what is important, don't mindlessly write every word, use your mind to process the information. When you study your notes, underline what is important or what you are unlikely to remember, and do this again with a different color ink... it usually helps to review like this seven times. If you have time, you can rewrite your notes to reorganise them, as long as you force yourself to use half the space you originally used. If you have to study something from a long time ago and it requires a lot of memorisation, it may help to tape record your notes and listen to them a lot, even while sleeping.