You never forget your first time.

 
      For a couple of years before I moved to New Hampshire I was
      spending a lot of time in the northeast.  I'd been going
      around playing for dances for a couple of years and  I had
      met some people in the western Mass./lower Vermont/New
      Hampshire area who liked the same music I did. They were
      pretty well-connected and could find us places to play. I
      would take some time off from work, jump on a plane, and
      we would spend a few days driving around New England, stopping
      every now and then to play for a dance.
      
      It was during this time that one of the New England-based
      callers I'd met and worked with was booked at a festival near
      where I lived.  We met up at the festival and schmoozed a
      little about what a change-up it was, what with them visiting
      my "turf" for a change.
      
      When the caller met up with the band they would be working
      with for the weekend, they got a bit of a surprise. The
      festival had paired the caller with a band that, not to put
      too fine a point on it, doesn't play for dances. At all.  I
      should point out that this was primarily a music festival,
      with some dances. It was pretty obvious the bookers did not
      know the dance scene.
      
      The caller came to me, possibly ashen-faced and in a cold
      sweat (my memory is a little hazy), and told me about the
      predicament. They asked would I mind sitting in with the band,
      so there would be somebody on stage who had played for a
      dance before. It had been cleared with the band and they,
      too, thought it a good idea. The fact is I was a little
      thirsty for stage time. But I was happy to be in a position
      to help, all the same.
      
      I met up with the band and we talked. They played Irish music
      and we knew a lot of the same tunes. The caller also declared
      an open stage and we rounded up a few more people (the band
      was, in fact, a duet) to bulk up our ranks. The dance was in
      a  room with a very small stage so by the time we were starting
      to play it was, let's say, cozy.
      
      Somebody had a tune book with chords (Pretty sure it was
      Square Dance Chord Book and Tune Locator (2nd edition) Jack
      Sloanaker; Tony Parkes published in 1979. In the um, decades
      since I'm sure there are others which have been published)
      so the accompanists were not in the  dark. It was still going
      to be  a white-knuckle ride but things were falling into
      place by the minute. Optimism was not unwarranted. We might
      even walk away from this with a few shreds of dignity remaining.
      
      As the caller was lining up the first dance we selected a
      couple of tunes that we all knew and that were in the tunebook.
      The fiddle player of the band and I were seated side-by-side,
      really close together.  It was near enough to go-time that
      we were both settling into our "playing posture," adjusting
      the microphones, and getting situated.
      
      We were seconds from getting the go-ahead from the caller
      to start the first dance when the fiddle player asked me:

	    "How many times will we play it?"
      
      I felt like I was bringing bad news when I said:
      
            "We'll play until the caller tells us to stop."
      
      The fiddle player's face literally went slack and there may
      or may not have been an audible "gulp" sound. Eyewitness
      accounts vary. And the only thing they said in reply was:
      
            "Oh."
      
      As it happened we had a great time.  I never really met up
      with the band again, they are from far away enough that it
      just never happened. One of the "sit ins," who's a successful
      singer and songwriter, was based a little closer to home and
      we would run into each other now and then.  It was like seeing
      someone after you'd been, I don't know, stuck in an elevator
      or something. There was a shared experience, a "you had to
      have been there" thing we'd been through that no one else
      would understand. I think we played music together once, in
      an informal setting. Yeah they asked me to accompany them on
      one of their songs.
      
      True story.
      

Suggested reading:
My First Time at Greenfield
In which I find a new home. Metaphorically speaking.
I Can Quit Whenever I Want To
In which I kick the coffee habit. Until about lunch time.
Full Moon Over Peterborough
In which Bob shows the dancers what he's made of.
Perhaps Samuel Butler was right
In which I learn that "on the job training" is not always the best choice.
Friends, Romans, Countrymen... Grab yer partners!
Caller Bernie Chalk came not to bury Caesar but to do-si-do with him.
Some experience required.
You never forget your first time.
Time Travel!
Return to those days of yesteryear
The $20 Fiddle Tune
We're not in it for the money, but neither do we turn it down.
Is That Guy Okay?
A case of mistaken identity.
Every Fiddle Has a Story...
... but they can't talk.
Mmm, Ham...
In which Pete and I rely on the kindness of strangers.
Not Sure Who Won But I Can Tell You Who Lost
In which I wind up with farm fresh historically accurate Colonial-era egg on my face.
Happy New Year
In which the New Year creeps in on little cat feet.


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